Happy New Year!

Greetings….Allow me to introduce myself! I’m Kim, a single mom of 2 daughters (20 and 18 years old), and a recent empty nester! For the 1st time in 20 years, I don’t have to be a mom taxi, referee, drill sergeant or secretary (well sometimes I’m still the occasional proof reader).

I used to say I couldn’t WAIT to be an empty nester, being a single mom for 20 years has been hectic and hard, now that the time is here….crickets! Like most new empty nesters, I’ve asked my self over and over, “what I will do with myself with all this free time?” FREE TIME?! What is that?! Something I’m certainly not used to!

I do have a day job, so that keeps me busy during the day, but my evenings, which use to consist of driving to games/practices, homework and whipping up meals, are suddenly a lot slower. As much as being a busy mom is exhausting, it’s easy to miss the hectic pace.

Can a mom over 40 (50 is fastly approaching) start a blog? What will I discuss? Who will find it interesting? Questions I’ve asked myself and I’m sure has caused me to delay starting this process. I think I’m a pretty interesting person! I know I’m a cool mom, so why not! Why not show other single moms (and single dads), or any person who due to a life change, may not be sure what the next step is or may want to reinvent their life? If I can do it, they can too!

Over the years, my daughters and I have enjoyed road trips whenever time/finances allowed, when I was a little girl, my family would travel to visit family in Alabama every summer….so the love of travel has always been there. I’m also an avid social media user, yes like most teenagers, my daughters have blocked me from their social media pages (lol), but hey! I have my own friends, so who needs them!

Hmm….I love to travel, I love social media, let’s not forget Mother Natures gift of gray hair (hence the nickname Silver Fox). So why not combine all of the above?

Welcome to Adventures of the Silver Fox! Thank you for joining me in this new chapter in my life!

Enjoy the ride!

Who said single parents can’t raise great kids?

I think we can all agree that one of the most rewarding and at the same time, exhausting jobs is being a parent. It’s hard for a 2 parent household, but it can be especially hard for a single parent.

I was raised by a single mom and I’ve been a single mom for 20 years, it wasn’t my choice, but hey things happen. I’ve had great support from family and friends over the years, they have helped shape my mini me’s into the young ladies they are today.

When I was younger I would always say “If I ever have kids, I want a son”. I only had one sibling growing up, my brother Jeffrey, I was 14 years older, so he was kind of like my son. When I was in middle and high school, I took him everywhere with me, so a boy is what I was used to.

How does the saying go? If you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans?

I didn’t get a son, but I have 2 daughters that I wouldn’t trade for the world! It’s amazing how fast time has gone, I remember them as these two little beings that my mom and I would always dress alike. Even though they are two years apart, it was so easy just to buy 2 of everything, even to this day people think they are twins. They look alike, but would rather drop dead than dress alike!

Both of my girls, like myself, have graduated from high school and are both currently enrolled in college. One is a junior (at my alma mater, THE Grambling State University) and the other a freshman, that’s something I’m very proud of! My goal in life has been to be half the mother to them that my mom was to me! As an adult, I appreciate all the ways she nurtured and motivated me, I can now pass that on to my girls.

Single parents, give yourself a pat on the back, whatever accomplishment(s) your children have made, it’s all because of you! If you are a parent that is having a hard time raising your kid(s) on your own, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Trust me, I know how hard it is to realize that sometimes we can’t do it all and may need help from family/friends, don’t be too prideful to ask.

What better way for me to embarrass my children than talking about them and posting their picture in a blog….Yesssssss!

My girls supporting each other at their graduations (L) 2018 and (R) 2016.

Christmas in Paris!

Bonjour!

2018 has been difficult, in February, I lost my only sibling Jeffrey to Cancer at age 33. Needless to say, the holidays weren’t going to be so cheerful, I previously lost my mother in 2015, so the holidays have been rough every year since. My brother, daughters and I all lived together before they both went off to college and he passed away, so the celebrating the Christmas at home just wasn’t going to be the same.

This year, for the 1st time ever, my daughters and I decided to spend the holiday away from home, after discussing various locations, we decided on the city of lights…Paris! We have never been, so the thought of going to visit the Eiffel Tower at Christmastime was very exciting, for my daughters (ages 20 & 18) this was an opportunity of a lifetime.

This was a big trip, I always remind my girls how blessed they are because not very many kids their ages get to go on a trip, certainly not out of the country! Even though traveling to Paris wouldn’t take the sting out of spending our first Christmas without Jeff present, it was a pleasant distraction. We kept his lively spirit alive during the trip, discussing how he would have reacted to the sights we saw.

Jeff was a HUGE wrestling fan, so spending Christmas at WWE Raw, Wrestle Mania or some Cage of Death event would have made him just as happy as going to Paris made us! lol

We were in Paris for 6 days, not very long, but long enough for my girls and I to enjoy our 1st Mother/Daughter(s) Christmas trip abroad. It helped me to appreciate life even more now that I’ve had so many examples of how short life really is.

Taking a trip abroad may not be an easy thing for everyone to do, but if the holidays are an emotional time due to the loss of a loved one, it helps to do something non-traditional. Your loves will be with you in spirit no matter how you choose to spend the holiday.

Thanks to Karen Utsey at Karen’s Kustom Travel (www.karenutsey.inteletravel.com) for arranging such a lovely trip!

Christmas 2018